When Leonard Cohen famously said:
"Forget your perfect offering.
There is a crack in everything.
That's how the light gets in."
... why are we so busy worrying about our broken bits?
In the US armed forces, all those wounded in battle are awarded a purple heart. Why then aren't we proud of the wounds we've gained in the battle with life's challenges? Instead we feel forced to hide our wounds, afraid we'll be judged for them, rather than for our ability to survive.
In a world where pottery can wear its age and damage with pride, highlighted with the dust of precious metals, surely we humans could do likewise? What if we could point to the harm caused by outside forces to our bodies, to our spirits, to our minds, and demonstrate not just how well they'd been repaired, but how high must have been our value that the repair was carried out so beautifully and with such a valuable material? Imagine a world where a person's value is linked to what they've gone through and survived, rather than what they'd been lucky to avoid.
For now, that world is still just a dream. But we can all start to build towards that world by believing it about ourselves.
It's not necessary to vomit the details of our wounds to each and every person we meet, but what is necessary is that we believe in our value. It is necessary that we value the work we do to repair our wounds as if it were the the dust of precious metals. It is necessary that we see our value, despite having being broken, as being so high it's worth making the repair with the dust of precious metals. It is necessary that should another person see our repaired wound that we don't feel ashamed of it - for it is beautiful in it's all its repaired glory - as if it had actually been repaired with the dust of precious metals.
Kintsugi: also known as golden joinery or golden repair - wear yours with pride.
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