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5 tenets to live by

The twist? That these are the tenets of Leo Esaki, Nobel Prize winning Physicist, and not those of a self-development guru. For if we limit ourselves to a narrow source of inspiration, we risk closing our minds to the vast range of wisdom and experience available to us.

So, on to those five tenets …

In the womb we are formed simply from our genes – that which we’ve inherited from our biological parents. This forms the Nature aspects of who we are.

But then we are born, and everything from our experience of birth itself onwards, forms the Nurture aspect of who we become. Some of those experiences will be positive and some will be negative.

The obvious take is that we should avoid being trapped by the negative, but I suspect that Esaki also intended that we should not be limited by the positive. Simply because one option has been easy, or proven to be successful, we need not limit ourselves to that one route. If opportunity, or our enthusiasm, takes us elsewhere – open your mind to the possibility.

This post is written on the basis of this very tenet. Relying on only one source will be limiting.

Reading, studying and engaging widely will ensure that ideas and information come to you from a variety of backgrounds and points of view. The danger of one single source is that it re-inforces what you already believe and know, leaving you unaware of new developments and concepts, or simply skewed to one train of thought.

Or, in the words of Haruki Murakami “If you only read the books that everyone else is reading, you can only think what everyone else is thinking.”

Lifestyles have become skewed towards the material, about what we possess rather than what we experience. Living a simplified, more stripped down life can also make us feel lighter of heart, freeing us from keeping up with the Joneses.

An even more important take on this is mankind’s tendency to hold on to thoughts and emotions which are unhelpful, even debilitating. Those which prove limiting to us and prevent us living the best life possible, are not needed. If you’re not able to shed them alone, seek support. NLP has some very effective techniques for dealing with these particular challenges.

What this doesn’t say is seek confrontation.

Rather that when you hold a belief, when it is well-formed and deeply-held, be willing and prepared to stand by it and to defend it.

You never know what is going to “feed” you.

I’m not scientist (indeed, I’m a long way from it) but I do enjoy the challenge science provides to my mental capacity. For I am curious. When I read a piece of science fiction, I look forward to checking out the seemingly out-of-this-world sciency stuff with my friendly neighbourhood scientist.

Boundaries are great for keeping you safe – both physically and emotionally – but let your mind roam freely. And let what it finds … surprise you.

Finally, my thanks to Dr Paul Coxon, Physicist at Cambridge University, for his informative tweet which inspired this post.

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originally posted 19th March 2018